The Fedez-Ferragni case
For several days on social networks and on the web people only talk (and especially bad) about the marriage proposal of the italian singer Fedez to the influencer Chiara Ferragni. He is a rapper born from nowhere (or better born from YouTube) and become rich and popular in a few years. She is a famous influencer known all over the world. Two child of our time, that with a pinch of imagination, ingenuity and maybe even the notorious beating of… Luck, they succeeded.
They did bingo, ensuring fame, success, but mostly dizzying earnings. All in all I can imagine that behind the media façade and the stage poses and the paparazzi thing, we’ll find two people like all therest of us.
Two guys like the others. Of course, with some less concern about the future, about what to do with their lives to earn a niche of security and stability.
But basically still human, with the anxieties and the dark moments that entails being human. Among those who dispense derogatory and ruthless comments, and those who, claiming they have no interest in it, dont realize that they’re still talking about it, the web is in turmoil.
Basically the attitude that goes for the most is contempt for Fedez grand gesture on the stage of the Verona’s Arena, right in front of thousands of fans.
“They put feelings in place to take advantage of it” “Even marriage is a business” “who cares?!”
Among the most representative comments of the audience reaction.
Basically, I’m not even surprised at this kind of attitude. Ostentation has always been a discouraged behaviour in mankind. A condemnation that has archaic origins, which goes back to our evolutionary roots.
Nowadays we have rationalized everything categorizing all in moral norms of conduct. According to these, it is not fair or beautiful to flaunt their fortune with respect to conspecifics, because this elicit envy.
And envy is known, it is an uncomfortable emotion.
It brings with it the concept of the evil, of wanting that something bad happens to someone. It is no coincidence that people find it so difficult to admit that they are envious. It remains, however, one of the many human manifestations, one to reckon with, and maybe even stay in peace.
I would find more to say about the level at which information is often reduced in these times. On the fact that news of massacres, wars between the poor and genocide are mixed, and confused, with tabloids on swimwear fashions for the upcoming summer season. On the birthday of hated as much as followed presenters.
After all, many of us at least once in our lives have thought of doing something special for their loved one.
“I want to shout to the world how much I love You”
Falling in love pushes the foot on the accelerator. A now consolidated data in the field of neuroscience and psychology is the struggle between reason and emotions.
We act crazy, we get our circadian rhythms get high, we no longer feel appetite. When we are troubled for love we are obsessed with finding answers, confirmations. We are willing to appear ridiculous, or childish. We question our own dignity, we become jealous and possessive.
So let’s put aside some of our albeit normal and healthy envy, and let us tear a smile in front of the romanticism of a boy, perhaps rich, beautiful and famous more than we will ever be, but basically, and only, a boy in love.