The Judgment of the others
Fear of being judged. Four easy ways to deal with it.
Some people do everything not be negatively judged by the other. They avoid saying what they really want to say. They don’t put themselves into play during business meetings or even among friends. They do not confess to their partner their most authentic desires. They don’t ask for a raise. They don’t express their true opinions.
Fear of being judged is linked to the desire of acceptance.
These people have strong purpose to please everyone, always. But as this is almost impossible, the one they are playing is a loosing game.
They live with an attitude that prevents the free expression of who they really are. This defense strategy only works in the short term, but wraps people in a life of inauthenticity and repressed emotions.
Nothing can guarantee that others like them for what they really are and not only for their submissive attitude, or because they are always so accommodating.
In addition, they face frustration, anger and negative judgement of theirselves: “I am a loser, I am not even able to say what I think!”.
Often the fear of being judged by others precludes the possibility of personal and professional realization, and can create problematic situations even in couple relationships.